Thursday, May 27, 2010

{Etiquette Lesson | Gratitude is the memory of the heart}


A thank you note represents a formality that many people have lost with today’s technology of emails and Facebook status updates; it represents the timeless need that people have to feel appreciated. A thank you note takes minutes to write but can give someone hours, days or even years of fulfillment.


My mother loves it when she receives a written thank you note; it makes her feel as though she did something well and you know what?... she did! Everyone who gives a gift even that horrible “what am I supposed to do with this!” gift giver did something well. They took time out of their day to think of you and that time always deserves a written thank you note.


So let’s take a moment to go over the basics of a thank you note.


Thank you notes should be received within three months of receiving the gift and preferably they should be written as soon as the gift has been received.


First, find appropriate stationary for the thank you note occasion. Whether you’re using Letterpress Monogrammed stationary from Crane or something simple and appropriate from Target, it should fit the occasion. Secondly, please find a black or blue (preferably black) pen. No, you may not use red or purple or green unless you’re under the age of 10 and your stationary has a picture of Dora on the front.


Thirdly, a thank you note is a representation of yourself so make sure it sounds like you and not as though it was copied from a generic source. You should include personalized comments aside from just the gift reference such as “It was so good to see you and your son, I can’t believe he is already 15!” or “We are sorry you weren’t able to be at the birthday party but we hope to see you soon.” Make sure that the recipient realizes you wrote this for them otherwise your time writing the note was wasted.


The gift giver should read your note and a smile should come across their face because in that moment you have made them feel special with such a simple and maybe even old-fashioned gesture.

~Laura

Monday, May 24, 2010

{At second glance}

Ahhh, the age old question....what to do with your wedding gown once the wedding is over? For most girls, the wedding dress is the most important factor in the wedding (except the groom of course!). So when the wedding is over, what do you do this beloved gown?

There are lots of options! You can do a trash the dress session; which make for unbelievable and amazing photos but most of us can't bear the thought of our beautiful Melissa Sweet gown being drug threw the mud. You can have your dress preserved and hope that one day you will have a daughter, niece or daughter-in-law who wants to wear your dress for their wedding day...but the chances of that happening are pretty slim. I have had a few friends who have done some really cool things with their dresses and their mothers dresses and I just had to share!

One idea is to have it turned into a custom christening gown that can be passed down from generation to generation. One friend of mine put a small patch inside the gown with their names and wedding date, followed by a patch with the name of the child and christening date.

Another friend I have turned her mothers dress into her rehearsal dinner dress. It was absolutely beautiful and such a wonderful tribute to her mother.

My most recent friend to get married had a simple beach wedding and plans to cut her dress into a short dress and wear it on her first anniversary. But you'll have to wait for next year to see the end results for her!

But my all time favorite idea to do with your dress is to get together with your girl friends, put on your dress and have an annual "you can wear it more than once" night on the town. I actually ran into these girls on my bachelorette weekend!

So tell us, what do you plan to do with your gown???

~Laura